" I don't pretend we have all the answers. But the questions are certainly worth thinking about" - Arthur C. Clarke
A good relationship between a coach and a client is one that fosters good questions. During a coaching process, a client sometimes takes time to answer a good question. A good question is a seed that grows while you keep thinking about it. Better questions take more time to thrive. Answers are not always clear or come in a flash. The answer may change within a few hours, days or weeks or even months.
This process is perfectly normal. Everyone of us has lots of thoughts on any given day, and lots of things to attend to.
A good coaching process provides the time and the space to become fully aware of a question - and what our most realistic and helpful answer to it is. In my practice I have seen a client change her visualised desired outcome multiple times. Some visualisations (in a 3 D avatar environment) even seemed to contradict each other. In her final depiction, she had finally found a constellation that was the strongest and most relevant for her. All she did and all we did together was asking simple, curious and neutral questions. With that final visualisation she made the strongest change in her thinking: " Now I know what I want , and what I need and I know what to do about it".
Good questions show open curiosity, analytical capability and genuine interest in progress.
They help to become clearer and more certain about what we want and what we need to do.
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